I've been right where you are.
For 20 years, I masked who I was and what I truly needed in order to succeed in spaces that punished sensitivity, intuition, difference, and rest. The masking dulled my intuition, drained my capacity, and built two businesses on top of a body that was telling me, in increasingly loud ways, that the approach I was taking didn't fit.
At 43, an evaluator said: "you're a high-masking autistic woman" and 20 years of masking burnout finally had a structural explanation. If you've ever needed silence in the car after a meeting and didn't know why, ignored a sensory overload to seem normal, or Googled "neurodivergent" at 2 AM, you know this story too.
Maybe with different details. Maybe with a different diagnosis. Maybe with no diagnosis yet.
What I learned through years of integration work: no one teaches us how to unlearn the survival patterns that kept us safe but are now what's costing us. The wellness industry sells optimization. The coaching industry sells mindset reframes. Neither addresses the body that's voting against the strategy. Neither addresses the brain that was wired differently from the start.
My work does. It has to.
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I've been right where you are.
For 20 years, I masked who I was and what I truly needed in order to succeed in spaces that punished sensitivity, intuition, difference, and rest. The masking dulled my intuition, drained my capacity, and built two businesses on top of a body that was telling me, in increasingly loud ways, that the approach I was taking didn't fit.
At 43, an evaluator said: "you're a high-masking autistic woman" and 20 years of masking burnout finally had a structural explanation. If you've ever needed silence in the car after a meeting and didn't know why, ignored a sensory overload to seem normal, or Googled "neurodivergent" at 2 AM, you know this story too.
Maybe with different details. Maybe with a different diagnosis. Maybe with no diagnosis yet.
What I learned through years of integration work: no one teaches us how to unlearn the survival patterns that kept us safe but are now what's costing us. The wellness industry sells optimization. The coaching industry sells mindset reframes. Neither addresses the body that's voting against the strategy. Neither addresses the brain that was wired differently from the start.
My work does. It has to.
I fixate as a socially dominant Enneagram Seven, which means I bring vision, passion, love, creativity, and future-forward energy into everything I do.
But it also means I’ve lived the consequences of avoiding discomfort, outrunning pain, and doing too much for too many.
I carry privileges, including being a well-educated, cisgender white woman, and I take responsibility for how those identities intersect with my work, my clients, and my role in systems of power.
My purpose is to help people reclaim their full humanity, not just their productivity, leadership, or “potential.”
To help you see yourself clearly, honor yourself fully, and build a life that includes all of you.
I fixate as a socially dominant Enneagram Seven, which means I bring vision, passion, love, creativity, and future-forward energy into everything I do.
But it also means I’ve lived the consequences of avoiding discomfort, outrunning pain, and doing too much for too many.
I carry privileges, including being a well-educated, cisgender white woman, and I take responsibility for how those identities intersect with my work, my clients, and my role in systems of power.
My purpose is to help people reclaim their full humanity, not just their productivity, leadership, or “potential.”
To help you see yourself clearly, honor yourself fully, and build a life that includes all of you.