And then you blamed yourself when you couldn’t keep up.
I help women unlearn the habits like overfunctioning, hypervigilance, high achievement, people-pleasing, perfectionism, and self-criticism that oppressive systems conditioned into their nervous systems, behaviors, and identities.
These patterns didn’t come from nowhere.
They came from surviving a world that demanded you hold everything together while pretending it wasn’t heavy.
You’ve spent years trying to function, succeed, and heal inside structures that were never designed with women’s bodies, bandwidth, neurodivergence, or humanity in mind.
You're not broken.
The system is.
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You’ve tried to thrive in systems built on urgency, productivity, compliance, and self-abandonment, and then blamed yourself when you couldn’t keep up.
But here’s the truth:
No one thrives inside structures that ignore what it means to be human.
Your burnout isn’t a failure. It’s evidence of how hard you’ve been working to survive systems that were never built for you in the first place.
These systems create:
chronic stress
emotional overload
endless masking
a life lived from survival, not choice
When you stop contorting yourself to fit into broken systems, you create space for your brilliance, your purpose, and your full humanity to take up space.
It’s time to break the cycles that keep you small, tired, and stretched beyond your humanity.
This work is personal.
I’m tired of watching brilliant women shrink inside systems never built for their leadership, their neurodivergence, their emotions, or their lived experience.
These systems don’t just live in the workplace, they live in our:
It’s not a weakness.
It’s conditioning.
And it’s time to unf*ck it.
These systems don’t just live in the workplace, they live in our:
- nervous systems
- behaviors
- survival strategies
- inherited beliefs about who we’re “allowed” to be
- Saying yes when we mean no.
- Apologizing for our limits.
- Being told we’re too much and not enough in the same breath.
It’s not a weakness.
It’s conditioning.
And it’s time to unf*ck it.
What I Actually Do
I help women identify and unlearn the patterns that are running their lives, the ones you didn’t choose, but inherited from systems that demanded your compliance instead of your humanity.
Using the Enneagram, Somatic Experiencing, and behavioral science, we create change at the root: your nervous system, your habits, your identity, and your capacity.
Together, we:
This isn’t about staying small to survive. It’s about breaking free… on your own damn terms.
Using the Enneagram, Somatic Experiencing, and behavioral science, we create change at the root: your nervous system, your habits, your identity, and your capacity.
Together, we:
- uncover the unconscious habits running your life
- understand how your nervous system learned to survive
- safely unlearn what no longer supports you
- rebuild your capacity and clarity from the inside out
This isn’t about staying small to survive. It’s about breaking free… on your own damn terms.
Applied Behavioral Scientist, Enneagram Teacher, Somatic Practitioner, autistic mama raising two neurodivergent kids, and a woman who spent too many years trying to succeed in spaces that punished sensitivity, intuition, difference, and rest.
I moved through leadership roles by overperforming, overextending, and ignoring my body’s needs just to belong. (Spoiler: it didn’t work.)
Through deep work with somatics, behavior change, and the Enneagram, I unraveled the patterns I was never meant to carry, and rebuilt a way of leading that centers authenticity, capacity, and nervous-system safety.
Now I help women do the same.
You deserve a life that honors your full humanity, not just the parts that feel “productive.”
I moved through leadership roles by overperforming, overextending, and ignoring my body’s needs just to belong. (Spoiler: it didn’t work.)
Through deep work with somatics, behavior change, and the Enneagram, I unraveled the patterns I was never meant to carry, and rebuilt a way of leading that centers authenticity, capacity, and nervous-system safety.
Now I help women do the same.
You deserve a life that honors your full humanity, not just the parts that feel “productive.”
Hi, I'm Erin!
This framework empowers women not to “improve” themselves, but to reclaim the parts of them that systems tried to suppress… all while living and leading from their full, grounded, regulated selves.
Reconnecting with the body's wisdom to foster presence and resilience.
SOMATIC
Implementing practical tools to create sustainable change.
bEHAVIORAL
Uncovering the core motivations and patterns that drive behavior.
ENNEAGRAM
My Integrative Approach
- Improve your relationships — with your partner, your parents, your coworkers, your community… and most importantly, with yourself.
- Strengthen your influence — whether that’s in the boardroom, on the PTA, or at the dinner table. You deserve to be heard. I help you confidently advocate for your needs while sharing your gifts.
- Develop high-performing teams — in your office, your company, or your living room. Leadership starts wherever you gather people together.
- Enhance communication + boundaries — so long-standing conflicts, unspoken resentments, and relationship patterns stop running the show and start to heal.
- Manage stress — because you can’t keep living from a place of deficit. Together we’ll build nervous system tools to move from survival mode to sustainable capacity.
- Shift your mindset — by rewiring the stories that keep you small (like “I have to prove my worth” or “I can’t say no”), so you lead from clarity instead of fear.
- Streamline business operations — from messy workflows to people management, we’ll create systems that free your time and energy so you can actually do the work you love.
What We Can Work On Together
Want a starting point that isn’t another toxic positivity approach or “just try harder” workbook?
Unf*ck Your Habits
Download the guide and learn how to spot the survival strategies oppressive systems trained into you… and how to take your first steps toward real capacity, clarity, and ease.
