When you’re in a hard season, the kind you can’t mindset-hack, meditate, or overfunction your way out of, it can leave us feeling isolated and alone. The people around you keep offering advice you didn’t ask for, and while they mean well, they have no idea what you’re really holding.
You’ve been carrying the mental load of your home, your relationships, your work, your kids, your parents, your trauma, your leadership, and your exhaustion. And you’ve been doing it inside systems that were never built with your body, your identity, or your capacity in mind.
You’re not stuck because you’re doing life wrong.
You’re stuck because you’ve been trying to survive without the support you actually need.
You’re not broken. You’re burnt out from trying to heal inside systems that were never meant to hold you.
You can read all the books, listen to every motivational podcast, and sit in therapy for years… and still feel like nothing is shifting. Not because you’re broken, but because no one can thrive under the bullshit systems and the conditioning you developed just to survive.
This is when women come to work with me, when they’re done trying to white-knuckle their way through a life that keeps demanding more than their nervous system, their bandwidth, or their humanity can actually give. As an applied behavioral scientist, feminist, and autistic mama raising two neurodivergent kids inside the same systems I’m actively dismantling, I built my practice for women who have never felt fully seen or supported in traditional mental health spaces. Modern mental health models weren’t designed to honor women’s bodies, autonomy, or power, so of course you haven’t felt held by them.
Together, we reclaim that power and build a way of living that finally includes you.
1:1 Behavioral Coaching
For women who are ready to break the f*cking rules, step into their full potential, and do it all with zero apologies.
This isn’t about fixing you.
This is about unlearning the conditioning that taught you to stay small, stay quiet, work harder, and carry more than one human ever should.
This is about unlearning the conditioning that taught you to stay small, stay quiet, work harder, and carry more than one human ever should.
The women who come to me are navigating real, complex, lived-life shit. Maybe you:
You don’t need another place where you “hold it together.” You need a space where you can finally exhale.
This is that space.
- let urgency, fear, or scarcity run the show… burning the wick at both ends, over working, under enjoying, and living on autopilot because slowing down feels like something essential might fall apart.
- people-please to avoid conflict or maintain belonging, leaving your relationships feeling resentful, one-sided, or nowhere near as deep as you crave and deserve.
- absorb the emotional load of everyone around you without having anyone who can hold you with the same depth, steadiness, or care you offer them.
- are burnt out and resentful, and it’s starting to spill into your work, your weekends, your partnership… honestly, into everything.
- dissociate or ignore your body because listening has never felt safe. And if this concept feels unfamiliar, it’s likely because you’ve never felt safe enough to tune in.
- feel like your own home, business, or relationships weren’t built for you, but to serve everyone else… and you’re finally seeing how unsustainable that is.
- succeed on the outside while silently falling apart inside.
You don’t need another place where you “hold it together.” You need a space where you can finally exhale.
This is that space.
Because three months is long enough to change your behavior (for real) and short enough to get you unstuck, fast.
Why a Three-Month Container
Behavior change isn’t a mindset shift. It’s the process of actually rewiring the habits, reactions, and survival strategies your nervous system has leaned on for years, maybe even decades.
It’s science, paired with a system-smashy, feminist approach designed around your personality, your nervous system, and your habits.
Three months is the sweet spot where your whole system finally starts working with you instead of against you.
It’s science, paired with a system-smashy, feminist approach designed around your personality, your nervous system, and your habits.
Three months is the sweet spot where your whole system finally starts working with you instead of against you.
And here’s what behavior change actually looks like in this work:
Meet K.C.
They came to me ready to quit their job… frustrated, exhausted, and convinced the problem was their workplace. But after digging into their Enneagram Type, we uncovered the real root:
they couldn’t tolerate making mistakes, letting things get messy, or speaking up when they felt unsure.
Those weren’t “job issues.” They were overworked nervous-system survival strategies.
So before anything else, we built safety in their body. When they were ready, we practiced tiny, tolerable moments of “mess,” starting with the simplest (and hardest) assignment:
Those weren’t “job issues.” They were overworked nervous-system survival strategies.
So before anything else, we built safety in their body. When they were ready, we practiced tiny, tolerable moments of “mess,” starting with the simplest (and hardest) assignment:
Put the silverware away without organizing it.
Let the kids put the dishes away imperfectly.
Use somatic tools to tolerate the discomfort.
With support, compassion, and nervous-system regulation, K.C. slowly expanded their tolerance for imperfection. We customized their assignments around their growth, stretching their capacity one step at a time.
And in three months?
They were able to:
make mistakes at work without spiraling.
speak up.
use their voice.
finally felt seen, heard, and valued.
Not because their job changed, but because they did.
This is what behavior change looks like… helping your body grow around life’s challenges instead of shrinking under them.
These micro-shifts… the ones that seem small, actually end up changing everything: your relationships, your work, your energy, your identity, your entire internal landscape.
Most of my clients choose to continue beyond three months, many for years, because once your system finally feels supported, truly supported, you’re able to dream bigger and live bolder than you ever have before.
And in three months?
They were able to:
make mistakes at work without spiraling.
speak up.
use their voice.
finally felt seen, heard, and valued.
Not because their job changed, but because they did.
This is what behavior change looks like… helping your body grow around life’s challenges instead of shrinking under them.
These micro-shifts… the ones that seem small, actually end up changing everything: your relationships, your work, your energy, your identity, your entire internal landscape.
Most of my clients choose to continue beyond three months, many for years, because once your system finally feels supported, truly supported, you’re able to dream bigger and live bolder than you ever have before.
What Will Actually Change
No fluff. No bullshit. Just real shifts you’ll feel in your body, your work, your relationships, and your daily life.
Let’s talk about your lived experiences… the shit you are actually navigating, and the results you needed yesterday.
- Stop feeling like you’re failing at life because you’re no longer waking up already behind or to the replay of yesterday’s self-criticism before you’ve even brushed your teeth.
- Make decisions without spiraling or overthinking like sending the email, picking the option, or setting the boundary without needing five pep talks or a full mental postmortem.
- Communicate your needs without guilt like saying “I don’t have the bandwidth for that” instead of silently pushing yourself past capacity.
- Stop overfunctioning in your relationships like stepping out of the default-rescuer role and letting other adults handle their own emotions, tasks, and consequences.
- Feel grounded instead of constantly on edge like staying present in conversations instead of zoning out, masking, or trying to predict everyone else’s reactions.
- Drop the emotional load that was never yours to hold like no longer being the unofficial therapist, mediator, planner, or crisis-manager for every person in your orbit.
- Build systems that actually work for your life like routines that adapt to your energy, your neurodiversity, your responsibilities, and your real-world limits, not someone else’s oppressive idea of “balance.”
- Reconnect to your body and stop living in panic mode like noticing stress earlier, regulating faster, and not jumping straight into survival strategies.
- Rebuild self-trust like believing your “no,” honoring your energy and timing, and making choices based on what you need instead of what others expect.
- Feel like yourself again, not the masked, exhausted, overextended version, the grounded, whole, fully human version who is finally taking up space.
We don’t do quick fixes. And we sure as hell don’t do influencer bullshit disguised as healing.
This is about returning to the version of you buried under all that exhaustion and the conditioning that taught you to love everyone else first.
We reclaim that love and build habits and behaviors that finally include every part of you.
This is about returning to the version of you buried under all that exhaustion and the conditioning that taught you to love everyone else first.
We reclaim that love and build habits and behaviors that finally include every part of you.
Where science, humanity, and my zero-bullshit ethic meet.
My Approach
I don’t subscribe to how the coaching industry teaches people to coach.
So much of it goes against every value I hold… the pressure to push harder, the glorified productivity, the “just shift your mindset” gaslighting, the way trauma and neurodivergence get ignored because someone learned a script but not the science.
I’ve watched people get harmed by systems that promised healing and I refuse to participate.
I’m an applied behavioral scientist with two decades of experience, but expertise isn’t the only thing I bring.
You also get my nervous system… my steadiness, my groundedness, my regulated presence, while you build your own.
Change doesn’t happen in isolation; it happens through co-regulation, which means you get to borrow my nervous system while yours becomes safer, stronger, and even bigger.
You don’t have to hold everything alone anymore. You get to borrow my capacity while we grow yours.
I do this work from a deep well of love… for people, for justice, for every woman who’s been told she’s “too much” or “not enough” in the same breath. I believe in your power, your wholeness, and your right to a life that doesn’t exploit you.
So much of it goes against every value I hold… the pressure to push harder, the glorified productivity, the “just shift your mindset” gaslighting, the way trauma and neurodivergence get ignored because someone learned a script but not the science.
I’ve watched people get harmed by systems that promised healing and I refuse to participate.
I’m an applied behavioral scientist with two decades of experience, but expertise isn’t the only thing I bring.
You also get my nervous system… my steadiness, my groundedness, my regulated presence, while you build your own.
Change doesn’t happen in isolation; it happens through co-regulation, which means you get to borrow my nervous system while yours becomes safer, stronger, and even bigger.
You don’t have to hold everything alone anymore. You get to borrow my capacity while we grow yours.
I do this work from a deep well of love… for people, for justice, for every woman who’s been told she’s “too much” or “not enough” in the same breath. I believe in your power, your wholeness, and your right to a life that doesn’t exploit you.
My work is:
I will never intentionally replicate the systems I’m helping you dismantle. And because harm can happen even with the best intentions, I stay committed to accountability and repair, always.
- relational, not transactional
- trauma-informed, not rooted in harm
- capacity-based, not hustle-based
- neuro-affirming, not compliance-driven
- ethical, accessible, and grounded in actual human dignity
I will never intentionally replicate the systems I’m helping you dismantle. And because harm can happen even with the best intentions, I stay committed to accountability and repair, always.
Traditional behavior models were built for conformity, not for humanity. I take the parts that work, throw out the parts that shame or oppress, and integrate everything with the Enneagram and somatics. This is behavior change that honors your identity, your capacity, and your nervous system.
SOMATIC
ENNEAGRAM
Because you can’t out-think a nervous system in survival mode. Together, we help your body feel safe enough to expand, tolerate more, and stop bracing for impact every minute of the day.
This is where change becomes something your body can sustain, not just something you think about.
It’s not a personality quiz, but rather a behavioral map. It reveals the survival patterns, childhood development, family dynamics, social conditioning and nervous system strategies you’ve relied on for decades… long before you had a chance to choose.
bEHAVIORAL
The Deconstructed Frameworks I Use:
How It All Comes Together
What you get is a personalized, trauma-informed, system-smashy process that helps you:
- unlearn the patterns that are keeping you stuck
- expand your capacity without burning out
- build habits that truly support you
- live in a way that reflects your whole self, not your conditioning
This isn’t about becoming someone new.
It’s about finally having the space, support, and nervous-system safety to become who you’ve always been.
Inside the Three-Month Container
This is deep, personalized, high-touch support built for complex humans with full lives.
- This isn’t therapy.
- This isn’t mindset work.
- This isn’t a weekend motivational workshop.
- This isn’t a rigid, one-size-fits-all coaching program.
You’ll receive:
This is where you stop white-knuckling and start rebuilding your life with clarity and capacity.
- weekly 50-minute sessions
- grounding, doable practices between sessions
- support between calls for quick check-ins or regulation
- flexible scheduling because life happens
- a space rooted in safety, consent, and nuance
- a coach who sees your complexity, your patterns, and your potential
This is where you stop white-knuckling and start rebuilding your life with clarity and capacity.
